Get Back to Better!

What is normal? What is best? What is worse?

"Normal" is very subjective and is unique to each individual. A question men do not ask themselves is "What is my standard for normal?" An even better question that men do not ask themselves is "What is my goal to increase my normal standard?"

"Normal" is the comfortable routine that allows us to easily breeze through each day without TOO much harm or differentiation to the schedule or to ourselves. I challenge you to look at your life, as is, and honestly determine what your "normal" is. Then ask yourself, "Do I like my normal, or can my standard for normal get better?"



The reason for this article is I've heard so many men say, "I have to get back to normal." after a break-up or an extended layoff from work or even a bout of sickness. I understand the desire to "get back to normal" because it's easy, and comfort feels good. Nobody ever says, "OK, now that that's over I'm going to go be worse." You have the option to, but you don't choose that because worse hurts, it feels bad. You also have the option to say, "I am going to Get Back to Better!" If you've just had your heart broken, lost a job, had the flu, or just had a bad night's sleep, you have the opportunity to make a distinct change in your life and "Get Back to Better!"

Take a look at who you were during that relationship that ended. Are there any areas for improvement in yourself so that you can have a better, deeper, more passionate and intimate relationship next time? Look at the person who had the job that was lost. Could he be more proactive, complain less, stand up for himself more, or be less argumentative. Take a close look at the person that was lying in bed, sick. Could that person eat healthier, exercise more, or start taking care of himself as soon as there were signs of illness?

I want to note that the changes I'm suggesting are not easy ones. Most men cannot just flip the proverbial switch and, tada, they're changed for the better! These are not simple changes but they ARE possible. So instead of "getting back to normal" why not give it a shot and "Get Back to Better!"

3 thoughts on “Get Back to Better!

  1. Great article Kevin, I think this is not just men but most people. Most people are not introspective, especially when it comes to relationships, in my experience. I have seen too many friends, male and female, not take the time to truly assess the relationship to determine what worked, what didn’t and if you liked the person you were when you were in the relationship.
    We don’t take the time in my opinion because we don’t want to see those things because possibly we had some part of the break down or our reasons for staying were not good enough.
    We need to take more time to step away from the situation and take the time to heal and assess before we go onto another relationship, because we will still be part of the equation and history will repeat itself.
    Get suggestion, get back to better!

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